You woke up one day inside a life you didn’t choose and don’t know how to leave
Something in you already knows the way out isn’t back. It’s through.
Maybe this sounds familiar.
You can’t read a page and remember what was on it. You walk into a room and forget why you came. People who love you say, “You seem better,” and you don’t have the energy to explain that you are not better. You have just learned to perform better.
Your brain is not broken. It is doing exactly what a brain does when the life it was organized around is gone. That person or that life was not just what you loved. It was how you knew where you were. The fixed point
“Have you tried therapy?”
“He would have wanted you to be happy.”
“You should think about getting back out there.”
You are not failing at grief. You are swimming in everyone else’s version of it.
That is exactly where I come in.
Navigating after loss is like driving in a perpetual fog. You can see just far enough ahead to keep moving, but nothing beyond that. And everyone around you seems to be driving in clear daylight, wondering why you’re going so slowly.
I am not going to hand you a map. There is no map for this. What I am going to do is sit with you in the fog, completely unafraid of it, without pulling you toward the exit before you are ready. Without needing you to arrive anywhere on any schedule. Without making what is happening to you into a problem that needs solving.
What is happening to you is not a problem. It is a passage. And you need someone who knows the difference.
I walk with women through the kind of loss that changes everything.
Not past it.
Through it.
YOU’RE IN THE RIGHT PLACE IF
You lost someone who was also your compass, and now you don’t know which direction you’re facing.
You’re functional on the outside and hollowed out on the inside, and those two things are getting harder to reconcile.
The grief support you’ve tried felt too clinical, too structured, or too focused on getting you somewhere you weren’t ready to go.
You’ve absorbed so many other people’s opinions about how you’re doing this that you’ve lost track of what you actually feel.
Something in you knows that this loss is asking something of you, not just survival, but transformation, and you want to meet that with intention rather than just endurance.
You’re in the right place if you are done pretending you’re fine.
Grief may be the doorway. But the work is about becoming.
Most women find me through loss. A death. A marriage that ended. A chapter of life that closed without warning. They come because they need someone who will not flinch, will not rush them, will not hand them a workbook with a timeline.
They stay because what begins as grief companionship opens into something larger.
Some are ready to work with the nervous system — to understand why their body is holding what their mind cannot process, and to gently, carefully begin to release it. Some find that a session of EFT tapping unlocks something that months of talking couldn’t reach. Some discover that their Human Design — the specific energetic blueprint they were born with — explains exactly why this loss has destabilized them so completely, and that understanding alone begins to restore something.
Some want to go deeper into the subconscious, into the places where old grief and old identity live, and do the quiet excavation work of hypnotherapy. Some need ritual. Some need language — help writing the words that honor what they’ve lost and point toward what they’re becoming.
There is no single path through here. There is only yours.
Wherever you are in this, there is a way of working together that meets you there.
See how we can work together.
I know this territory from the inside.
When my husband died, I did not need more information about grief. I had the training. I had the modalities. I had spent years walking beside women in transition. What I needed and what I could not find anywhere was someone who could be completely steady while I was not. Someone who understood that the fog was not a symptom. It was the landscape.
That experience did not change my work. It sharpened it down to the bone.
I know what it is to read the same sentence four times and retain nothing. To stand in the grocery store and feel suddenly, overwhelmingly alien to your own life. To have people say “you seem better” and feel something close to grief about that too because better is not the right word, and you’re not sure the right word exists yet.
I am not here to fix you. I am not here to move you along. I am here because this work is sacred, and because you deserve someone in your corner who is not afraid of any of it.
— Karen Rothstein, Founder, Transformation by Design, Inc.
Kind Words Clients Have Shared With Me
I am so thankful for my experience with Karen. For almost a year, I had been trying to consciously work through some energy around a past relationship. I literally felt like it had a “death grip” on me. Once Karen and I did the past life regression, we immediately saw why I felt that way. I also got a VERY clear message that the contract was over with that person.
I don’t really know how I could have made it through these past six months without you. Words can not express how your intuitive insight, your compassion, your guidance, and your strength have changed me and my life. I will be referring everyone to you. You are truly gifted.
I’ve had a lot of counseling. Karen’s quick insight into what going on with me allowed me to make some quick changes.Over several sessions with her I was able to see how my own belief was keeping me stuck, and holding me back from doing what my soul was here to do.
Just a note to tell you that one of the exercises you had me do when I was working with you was to write down what I wanted in my next mate. I found that paper a few weeks ago and Mike meets about 95% of the things I wrote!! Also, the astrology reading for this year…it is already unfolding. We are enjoying our travels!
I wanted to let you know I am sleeping like a baby through the night. Thank you so much for giving me my life back.
You have a gift. After every session I have had with you, I hung up with more clarity, calmness, and insight. Thank you.
Ready to begin?
The first step is a conversation, not a consultation, not a sales call. Just a chance to
talk about where you are, what you’re carrying, and whether working together
feels right. If something on this page made you feel less alone,
that is not an accident